beachdeath:

When we are experiencing it, loss often feels like an anomaly, a disruption in the usual order of things. In fact, though, it is the usual order of things. Entropy, mortality, extinction: the entire plan of the universe consists of losing, and life amounts to a reverse savings account in which we are eventually robbed of everything. Our dreams and plans and jobs and knees and backs and memories, the childhood friend, the husband of fifty years, the father of forever, the keys to the house, the keys to the car, the keys to the kingdom, the kingdom itself: sooner or later, all of it drifts into the Valley of Lost Things.

There’s precious little solace for this, and zero redress; we will lose everything we love in the end. But why should that matter so much? By definition, we do not live in the end: we live all along the way. The smitten lovers who marvel every day at the miracle of having met each other are right; it is finding that is astonishing. You meet a stranger passing through your town and know within days you will marry her. You lose your job at fifty-five and shock yourself by finding a new calling ten years later. You have a thought and find the words. You face a crisis and find your courage.

All of this is made more precious, not less, by its impermanence. No matter what goes missing, the wallet or the father, the lessons are the same.

– Kathryn Schulz, When Things Go Missing

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chronicintrovert:

self-care is spending 90% of your day absorbed in fictional worlds/characters to avoid thinking about or engaging with your very real problems

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Anonymous asked: ross and rachel are a power couple. thoughts??

emperoxgrayland:

its-hp-bitch:

That overdramatic mess should’ve been left alone. 

I consider power couples to be healthy and supportive. You want power couples? Here are the best ones:

YES EXCEPT JIM AND PAM. can we agree Jim is 🤢

castielsteenwolf:

pooh-and-friends:

Good post OP

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emperoxgrayland:

James: Punch me in the face.

Lily: Punch you?

James: Yes, punch me, in the face. Didn’t you hear me?

Lily: I always hear “punch me in the face” when you’re speaking, but it’s usually subtext.

ssarawrr:

1.) Every time you feel too worried about something you did in the past, take time for yourself rather than freak out. Don’t worry about the mistakes you made in the past–they call it the past for a reason–those actions stay there, and it’s your decision how far you want to keep that distance! Strive towards trying not to make that mistake again by steering clear of what made you do it in the first place, and before you know it, the past will be so far away you can hardly see it anymore.
2.) Ask yourself what you really want, and work towards that, rather than working half-ass for something you don’t know if you want.
3.) If something isn’t working for you, or is holding you back, let it go.
4.) Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
5.) Don’t feel like you’re doing something wrong just because you’re having a bad day or you don’t feel happy–it sounds weird, but I can’t stress it enough. The key to happiness is ironically to not be happy all the time. It’s about knowing how to deal with yourself in your darkest moments, because in life there will be things we can’t control and we must all find the best possible ways to deal with them.
6.) Don’t idolize or worship anyone. I mean, it is healthy to admire an artist or someone who does something you look up to, but use that as inspiration to better yourself, rather than an excuse to focus on that person more than yourself. These people are human just like you, and most of them want to inspire you. Let them inspire you, but do not worship anyone.
7.) Don’t compare yourself to anyone. Maybe you were born with a limit to how perfect your skin will ever be or maybe your voice will never be like Celine Dione; no matter what it is, everyone has great unique qualities that they can foster without comparing themselves to other people.
8.) Be able to laugh at yourself. A sense of humor can change your outlook on any situation.
9.) Appreciate the days where you do nothing. These days with all the technology available, we tend to get bored easier, and rather than finding luxury in having a peace of mind and time to ourselves, we often become anxious. Letting go of those things and just savoring the moment can bring immense fulfillment if you let it.
10.) Give, and forgive. Be a good person and give as much as you can, and when you are selfish and can’t give, forgive yourself for not being generous, so you can learn from that and give more. The more you give, the greater fullness you will feel.

quotetherapy:

“If you enjoy the process, you can let go of the outcome.”

— Gretchen Rubin

mytwosaints:

“Procrastinators can’t make themselves work- often, ironically, because they’re so anxious about work that they have to distract themselves from it- but they can’t enjoy free time, either, because they know they should be working.”

— Better Than Before, Gretchen Rubin 

needtobeehealthy:

l11ghtw0rker:

1. Choose 3 main tasks per day that you want to accomplish. Balance the activities between practices for your mind, body and soul. 

E.g. My 3 main tasks for tomorrow are: 1. Tarot Notes (mind), 2. Work Out (body), 3. Bath (soul)

2.Time block. Schedule your day’s, week’s and month’s ahead so you’re not operating your life randomly (at least just do your day ahead*)  

E.g. 
9:00- Wake up 
9:30- Take the dog out 
10:00- Breakfast
10:30- Tarot notes 
etc. 

3. Prioritize. Things will come up, you won’t always get done what you need to in a day. Number or put star’s/symbol next to task’s that have to get done that day. Set deadlines for goals. Write notes on how you can improve on achieving your goals when you don’t meet deadlines. Use the data to your benefit, keep track of patterns so you can form new ones and be aware of where your time and energy is going. 

4. Reward Yourself. Do a page of homework and then watch an episode, go get a special latte after you finish a self reflection page, go to the clubs after exams, celebrate your victory’s no matter how small or amazing. Have something to look forward to. Even simply having a cup of tea while scrolling can make the experience much more cozy and soothing. Set yourself up for success and follow through with being kind and gentle. 

5. Encourage Yourself. Be your #1 fan, be a friend to yourself. Find/create affirmations you feel connected to. E.g. “I can conquer any-fucking-thing that comes my way with grace and ease.” Comfort yourself when you feel down. Don’t let the darkness take over. You have the power to do anything when you believe you do. Stop giving your power away. Your belief’s create your reality. “What you think you become” is viral for a very good reason. It’s true.        

rotten-day-dreams:

//// Nothing memorable stays the same a book of poems by Kyle Fasel.

juansendizon:

“it’s not because i refuse to let go of the past rather it’s because the past refuses to let go of me. it took a lot of summers to convince me that winter is finally over. it took a lot of gentle faith to convince me that it’s safe to go outside. to reclaim my space and hope that these memories won’t stop me from being merry under the sun.”

— juansen dizon, living with post-traumatic stress disorder

just-shower-thoughts:

Animals know to fuck their own species even though they have no idea what they themselves look like